Keeping kids quiet and happy in church or any place that they need to behaive is a difficult task for all mothers. Tami posted this idea, which is great! Please help us with your ideas (click on comments at the bottom of this post)
Tami Haws said...
I got some advice from my bishop the other day that might help some of you mothers that have kids that wont hold still during sacrament. My son is almost 2 and he has a hard time holding still and usually wants to play during sacrament. My bishop told me that I should have, what he calls quiet time at home. To get them used to sitting for a legth of time. We started out about five min. Everyday we will sit on the couch no TV no phone I get out very quiet small toys that he has to play with on the couch and I say "quiet time" and while he does that I read scriptures so he will be familiar with scriptures and being quiet. The first week we started out at 5 min then we work up to 10 and so on. It take trial and error but I am seeing improvment in our son. Good Luck!
Melinda Ford said...
I just had a little idea that I learned from an occupational therapist for my children (because they have sensory weird things going on) and I think it might help for others as well. I don't always do this, but it is supposed to help. Participating in a high sensory activity right before children have to sit still can be beneficial (as long as it doesn't rile them up too much). By this I mean stomping or pounding, anything that gives high feedback to their skin and muscles will allow them to sit still for longer. On a different note, I found that talking to them about Jesus and His church (house) helps them to understand why they are being quiet and reverent. I started talking to my oldest at age 1 about the sacrament and how Jesus died for us and that we don't kick the pews and we treat the hymn books well because this is Jesus' house and the hymn books have special songs about Jesus. This really seemed to touch base with him and I've never really had a problem with acting out except on a fairly rare occasion. I know that all children are different but I think all will respond to the Spirit and doing what is right if they know why.
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Saturday, January 10, 2009
Wednesday, December 3, 2008
The Mothers Have spoken!!!
In my recent poll almost all of you said that finding time to play with you kids is the hardest thing for you to do each day. And I just have to say that I am a bit relived, I posted this kind of selfishly wondering if I was the only mom who had a hard time doing that. So thank you all for being honest you made me fell a little better! (I think)
So anyone who might have some ideas....PLEASE HELP!
This is something that I have been working on and I find it sad to say it that way..that I am "working on" playing with my kids, but it is the truth!
I have been making a effort to make myself available (most days) to play when they wake up for a nap. So I make sure that I have all the other stuff done by then.
And on the days that I am really busy I play while I am working or join them in on the work somehow and then they are happier.
I find that when I take even a half hour out of my day to do this, my kids are better in so many ways!
So anyone who might have some ideas....PLEASE HELP!
This is something that I have been working on and I find it sad to say it that way..that I am "working on" playing with my kids, but it is the truth!
I have been making a effort to make myself available (most days) to play when they wake up for a nap. So I make sure that I have all the other stuff done by then.
And on the days that I am really busy I play while I am working or join them in on the work somehow and then they are happier.
I find that when I take even a half hour out of my day to do this, my kids are better in so many ways!
Friday, October 24, 2008
Keeping kids busy during the winter months
Keepin kids busy during winter
Tamis ideas:
- art projects
- painting pumpkins
Here are some ideas: We could always use more!!
Ellie Yost Said......
I've been letting my 18 month old help me with my chores. Like getting the clothes out of the dryer or picking up his shoes or toys. Building with blocks, reading books. Since the weather is really wet here it's hard for us to do things outside. I've also out up a two man tent before and filled it with pillows and blankets and let him and his sister play in there.
vigues said...
Oh, the tent idea is really good. Also, cardboard boxes. Any size, any shape (although the big ones are the MOST fun). My kids love to fill and empty small boxes, hide in medium boxes, and make forts or houses out of really large boxes. Oh, my kids have really done well with cooking together. It's a mess, but they love dumping and stirring (my 4 year old still insists that he's "the dumper" if there's cooking to be done).
Rebecca Said.....
Well some of the things that we do are......
- puppet shows
- hide and seek (but be careful sometimes they hide really good)Sometimes we hide stuffed animals or something like that and then find them too!
-We also play zoo, we put out our stuffed animals in different areas of the house and then go around and look at them just like the zoo.
-My kids also love the connect four game they don't really play, but they love put the checkers in and dump them, I don't think they are small enough to swallow?!
-Play dough is messy, but fun and if you let it dry it is easier to clean up! or there is homemade peanut butter play dough and then little ones can eat it! (I will post that soon)
-My mom made my kids a cover that goes over a card table to make a tent or you could just put a big blanket! then we turn off the lights and get flash lights to play with.
-Also my kids like to play "clean" so I went to the dollar store and got empty spray bottles and put a little water lavender oil (so they would think it was real) and then tell them to work on cleaning the kitchen floor! they do good for a while, but you still have to watch them, they will eventually get out of hand!
-my kids love water colors, but they are hard to find.
Tamis ideas:
- art projects
- painting pumpkins
Here are some ideas: We could always use more!!
Ellie Yost Said......
I've been letting my 18 month old help me with my chores. Like getting the clothes out of the dryer or picking up his shoes or toys. Building with blocks, reading books. Since the weather is really wet here it's hard for us to do things outside. I've also out up a two man tent before and filled it with pillows and blankets and let him and his sister play in there.
vigues said...
Oh, the tent idea is really good. Also, cardboard boxes. Any size, any shape (although the big ones are the MOST fun). My kids love to fill and empty small boxes, hide in medium boxes, and make forts or houses out of really large boxes. Oh, my kids have really done well with cooking together. It's a mess, but they love dumping and stirring (my 4 year old still insists that he's "the dumper" if there's cooking to be done).
Rebecca Said.....
Well some of the things that we do are......
- puppet shows
- hide and seek (but be careful sometimes they hide really good)Sometimes we hide stuffed animals or something like that and then find them too!
-We also play zoo, we put out our stuffed animals in different areas of the house and then go around and look at them just like the zoo.
-My kids also love the connect four game they don't really play, but they love put the checkers in and dump them, I don't think they are small enough to swallow?!
-Play dough is messy, but fun and if you let it dry it is easier to clean up! or there is homemade peanut butter play dough and then little ones can eat it! (I will post that soon)
-My mom made my kids a cover that goes over a card table to make a tent or you could just put a big blanket! then we turn off the lights and get flash lights to play with.
-Also my kids like to play "clean" so I went to the dollar store and got empty spray bottles and put a little water lavender oil (so they would think it was real) and then tell them to work on cleaning the kitchen floor! they do good for a while, but you still have to watch them, they will eventually get out of hand!
-my kids love water colors, but they are hard to find.
Monday, October 6, 2008
Discipline!!!! Such a hard thing to do.....
On my poll most of you said that discipline is the hardest thing for you so I decided to publish this post hoping that my mistakes will help someone else!!!
I have found that in the last 4 years of my sons life he has tested me to the highest degree. I am generally a very mellow person, but I have to admit that I have been surprised with myself with the way I react to his misbehavior. I have come to terms with myself and realized that I have a problem too and I need to react differently when he does something wrong. And I will tell you I wish I would have tried this 2 years ago, it is amazing the difference I see in him and me. Don't get me wrong some days I have to take a step back from my normal routine and remember what that I am trying to be better!!! Here are a few things that I have noticed that helps for me.
Important Reminders about Discipline:
1.Stay calm and do not get carried away when your child misbehaves. Avoid yelling and screaming, since this can teach your child that it is all right to lose control if you don't get your way. If you feel like things are escalating too much, then take a break until you can regain your composure. (this is a huge one for me, I noticed the biggest change in my son when I am more calm, but firm. It is soooo hard to do sometimes.)
2.Avoid too much criticism. Make sure your child understands that it is the misbehavior that you are unhappy with and that you will always love him.
3.Avoid too much praise. You don't need to be continuously praising your child, especially for routine activities, because it will make your comments less effective.
4.Don't focus on negatives all of the time, especially when offering positive reinforcement. It is much better to say ‘I like that you put all of your clothes away,' instead of saying ‘I like that, for once, you finally got around to putting your clothes away without my asking.'
5.Avoid physical punishment. Spanking has never been shown to be more effective than other forms of punishment and will make your child more aggressive and angry.
6.Remember to give rewards and praise for good behavior.
7.Understand the difference between rewards and bribes. A reward is something your child receives after he has done something, while a bribe is given beforehand, to try and motivate your child to do what you want. Bribes should be avoided.
8.Be a good role model.
Most importantly, provide your child with a safe environment in which he feels secure and loved.
Sometimes these things are so difficult! But that's why we are down here right? to learn and grow, so lets show our little ones how to be better people and that everyone even big people make mistakes!
......
I have found that in the last 4 years of my sons life he has tested me to the highest degree. I am generally a very mellow person, but I have to admit that I have been surprised with myself with the way I react to his misbehavior. I have come to terms with myself and realized that I have a problem too and I need to react differently when he does something wrong. And I will tell you I wish I would have tried this 2 years ago, it is amazing the difference I see in him and me. Don't get me wrong some days I have to take a step back from my normal routine and remember what that I am trying to be better!!! Here are a few things that I have noticed that helps for me.
Important Reminders about Discipline:
1.Stay calm and do not get carried away when your child misbehaves. Avoid yelling and screaming, since this can teach your child that it is all right to lose control if you don't get your way. If you feel like things are escalating too much, then take a break until you can regain your composure. (this is a huge one for me, I noticed the biggest change in my son when I am more calm, but firm. It is soooo hard to do sometimes.)
2.Avoid too much criticism. Make sure your child understands that it is the misbehavior that you are unhappy with and that you will always love him.
3.Avoid too much praise. You don't need to be continuously praising your child, especially for routine activities, because it will make your comments less effective.
4.Don't focus on negatives all of the time, especially when offering positive reinforcement. It is much better to say ‘I like that you put all of your clothes away,' instead of saying ‘I like that, for once, you finally got around to putting your clothes away without my asking.'
5.Avoid physical punishment. Spanking has never been shown to be more effective than other forms of punishment and will make your child more aggressive and angry.
6.Remember to give rewards and praise for good behavior.
7.Understand the difference between rewards and bribes. A reward is something your child receives after he has done something, while a bribe is given beforehand, to try and motivate your child to do what you want. Bribes should be avoided.
8.Be a good role model.
Most importantly, provide your child with a safe environment in which he feels secure and loved.
Sometimes these things are so difficult! But that's why we are down here right? to learn and grow, so lets show our little ones how to be better people and that everyone even big people make mistakes!
......
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
How to get your kids to be good while shopping!
This is a tough one! but here are some things that I do to help ease the stress and keep them occupied for at least some of the time. Click on comments and Please add your ideas
1. Pack their lunch in a cute little lunch box and have them nibble on it in the shopping cart!(I know shopping carts are dirty!, but it is not like they don't end up with their mouths on them anyway!)
2. Let them bring their own toy shopping cart and let them put a few small items in it or a toy stroller with a baby doll in it. (this can keep my kids good for quite a while, because they feel so included and big!)
3. I carry magnets in my purse that they can stick to the shopping cart and play with.
4. And of course I know we all do this....Bribery works when all else fails!
1. Pack their lunch in a cute little lunch box and have them nibble on it in the shopping cart!(I know shopping carts are dirty!, but it is not like they don't end up with their mouths on them anyway!)
2. Let them bring their own toy shopping cart and let them put a few small items in it or a toy stroller with a baby doll in it. (this can keep my kids good for quite a while, because they feel so included and big!)
3. I carry magnets in my purse that they can stick to the shopping cart and play with.
4. And of course I know we all do this....Bribery works when all else fails!
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